Some days, it just feels easier to give up. I mean, it seems the deeper I delve into the world of feminism and women’s rights, the sadder I become and the harder it gets to fight for the cause. Even little, every day battles. If somebody says something that makes me uncomfortable or sounds really sexist or chauvinistic, I usually speak up. Often times, I am immediately told to ‘calm down’ or ‘lighten up.’ I’m a cold-hearted, castrating bitch because I have feelings. That or everything I’m saying can’t possibly be true because there is ‘no such thing as gender inequality because the law says so.’ You know, people who say that are right, there are no laws that specifically inhibit women from having the same rights as men. But what about those unwritten laws out there? The laws that say I should be gentle and sweet. The laws that say my emotions are weakness. The laws that say ‘boys will be boys’ when referring to the rude behavior of males or ‘female logic’ when referring to ‘stupid’ or ‘illogical’ things that ‘all girls’ do. The laws that say a woman who posts a million selfies a day is ‘immature,’ ‘narcissistic,’ or ‘a whore’ instead of ‘insecure,’ ‘lonely,’ or ‘in need of a real friend.’ The laws that prevent me from going braless in the name of COMFORT because men will ogle me free breasts and it’s my fault because ‘they cannot help themselves.’ The laws that say it’s ok to talk about rape as long as it’s a joke, but nobody wants to hear your story of the time you were harassed because ‘we don’t talk about that, it’s disturbing.’ The laws that keep a man who has been raped or assaulted silent because ‘men don’t get raped.’ All of these laws sound outlandish when written out like this, but it seems every time I try to fight this patriarchal malarkey, I am shot down with this very reasoning. ”It’s just a joke,” “Are you on your period or something?” “If you get drunk and raped dressed like that than it’s all your fault, you should have known better.” These are real statements that I have heard. I used to really hope that this was a small amount of men who believed these things, but I’ve heard this kind of thinking from men I respect, men I look up to, and even many many women who have become so brainwashed that they, too, view themselves as ‘the weaker sex’ and are often ‘ashamed to be called women’ because of how ‘all girls’ act. I am everyday fighting a losing battle to wear a short skirt downtown or speak my mind without losing friends. So, some days, it just feels easier to give up.